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FILTERED, DISCIPLINED
AND DIRECTED THOUGHTS:
A Pauline Paradigm of Cognitive Restructuring Facilitating
Changes in Dysfunctional Families
Rev. Shaji Daniel, Houston
Dysfunctions produce chaotic sisted of a “permissive father, a con- Therapy in to the Family Counseling,
relationships in any unit in- trolling mother, and errant older son, identifies eight common cognitive dis-
cluding family. Individuals in and a deceptive younger son.”Never- tortions that may cause dysfunctions
dysfunctional families are poorly or- theless, we should remember that they and conflicts in families: They are:
ganized and the household is plagued were the main families God used to
with various problems. Parents be- build His nation. 1. Arbitrary Inferences: A conclu-
come inconsistent and indecisive and sion generated about an event with-
their children are emotionally aban- Marital or family dysfunction, out substantiating evidences. For in-
doned. A little bit of dysfunctional el- generally, occur when irrational and stance, when a child comes home 5
ement is found in every family, even unrealistic ideas are developed by the minutes late the parents conclude that
from the Biblical period. Some of the couples or parents about their rela- their children are engaged in delin-
families in the Bible were more dys- tionships and introduce negative, of- quent behavior.
functional than the families of the ten extreme, evaluations of self and
present time. others when problems arise. Frank 2. Selective abstraction: taking
M. Dattilio, a professor of Psychiatry, things out of context, paying atten-
In Adam’s family, husband and who introduced Cognitive Behavioral tion to distortion-supporting details,
wife blamed each other and children
developed sibling rivalry resulting “ Marital or family dysfunction, generally, occur
in the murder of the younger son. when irrational and unrealistic ideas are developed
Dysfunctional moments are found by the couples or parents about their relationships
in Abraham’s family when he, for his
self-protection, pretending Sarah as and introduce negative, often extreme, evaluations
his sister; and in Isaac’s family where
parents show favoritism to one child of self and others when problems arise.
over the other (Isaac to Esau and Re-
becca to Jacob). Isaac’s family was con-
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